This article speaks to me.
My old boyfriend used to blather about his “crazy” ex-girlfriend. I trusted his judgment of her… until the day I realized that he constantly called me “crazy”— to my face! Why? Because I was emotional. Once I dumped him, the crying jags miraculously stopped. Turns out that dating meanies is depressing. Who knew?
I still wonder about that girl. She may have been fabulous.
Life is strange like that.
I think that when two people break-up one of them is almost always an A-hole. Maybe it dosen’t start that way everytime, but by the end of it all I think one of them is. I’d be lying if I told you that I’ve never been the A-hole.
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What I’ve learned about people is this: People who speak badly about other people to your face, will one day speak badly about you with some other person. Behavior is consistent and most people don’t change unless they want to. Meanies are attracted to happy, kind people like you and I. We start off being our happy selves in our relationships and over time the depressed, cruel, low self-esteem person that they are suck the happiness/life out of us. Some people don’t have a heart so they wouldn’t understand that when someone hurts, this watery stuff comes out of their eyes. If we weren’t meant to cry then God wouldn’t have given us hearts and feelings.” Some people you just have to say goodbye to. It shouldn’t have to be that way, but sadly it is. The good thing is that once the meanie is gone, the happiness returns.
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Your IDC friend is very right on this! I know a guy who had two crazy ex-girlfriends to blather to me about. One was actually creepy-crazy. The other was a perfectly normal girl who just knew what she wanted out of life and it wasn’t him. Apparently he couldn’t tell the difference.
I trust that Your ex-boyfriends gossip about you as the one perfect girlfriend of whom they were completely unworthy.
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“and I’m crazy for lovin’ you…” hey, “nice” song. mhmm. :-T
u iz (wuz?) emotional!? o_0 never would have guessed that! Anyway, I’m constantly in awe of human stupidity. The species that can look up at the stars and contemplate (and discover!) where we came from and where we’re going is the same one that constantly makes celebrities out of people like Spencer Pratt… But I don’t know. I’ve always been strangely drawn to “crazy” people. I think it’s because I was a Christian for such a long time (ha! “Lord, Liar, or Lunatic,” indeed!). I also have a high affinity toward Ron Paul. Incidentally, I find that the type of people that are “strangely drawn” to me are the mentally handicapped, which is interesting, I suppose.
She’s right, though. There’s always *some* reason for people’s actions. Nobody ever does anything without a reason (even though that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a *good* reason).
wow… talk about coincidences… I just saw today that I find highly relevant to this topic. but… you’re not allowed to watch it… because it’s only for men… yeah… >_>
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Adderall Apocalypse Reply:
December 7th, 2009 at 7:25 AM
oops! lol. sry. html-fail. I guess I’m just a n00b on some levels. didn’t realize you had turned off filtering. or w/e. Also, the first emoticon should maybe have been something like o_O
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Adderall Apocalypse Reply:
December 7th, 2009 at 7:26 AM
um. I meant the 2nd emoticon… ha.
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Funny how those things work ;)
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Redd – I’ve been on both sides of that equation, fo’ shizzle. But I’ve also been one of two perfectly nice people who didn’t feel like marrying each other. Still messy, but there’s less to be furious about after the breakup.
yourIDCfriend – I thought about you while writing this post, about how you became friends with a certain ex-girlfriend.
You’re right. Once we stop dating bloodsuckers, we can suddenly thrive and bloom. I should embroider all that on a pillow, eh?
mum – Ha! Good story! Greg’s the only ex I EVER talk to…. but last time I was at A.B.’s house, I noticed he still had pictures of me on his wall. I imagine his current girlfriend’s cleaned ‘em up by now.
sarah von – I’m learning that MOST painful things are funny… a few years after the fact.
Adderall Apocalypse – “I’m constantly in awe of human stupidity.” Now THAT should be embroidered on a pillow!
You attract the mentally handicapped? Most mysterious.
I’ve turned the emoticons back on, but my blog apparently has an extremely limited emoto-vocab. Don’t worry, I got the message.
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I think it’s virtually impossible to tell who the crazy one in some relationships. I’ve had had a couple of boyfriends that were only abusive when there were no witnesses, and sweet as could be in public. Then when I’d sob to my friends they’d think * I * was crazy for not adoring my amazing guy. Luckily, I now have better taste in guys AND friends. I would also like to add that a lot of times BOTH people are the crazy A-hole. Sometimes neither of them is, and “crazy” is short for “crazy because there’s no way anyone could fail to see that I am god’s gift to the world unless they were crazy.”
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Ming – Go tell it on the mountain! Grandma and my bishop’s wife both loOoOOOOOoved the ex who said I was crazy… he knew how to be charming in public.
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Great article!!!
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